Kids and Keyboards–A Dilemma

I recently read that Silicon Valley parents are concerned about how using cell phones, tablets, and computers in the classroom affects children’s development. Wait, what?!? The creators of the screens and software don’t want their children using them? The  New York Times article described how families across the country are reconsidering the role of technology in the classroom.

Whoa. I recall fundraising with the PTO so students at my sons’ school would have computers in the classroom. We wanted our kids to be ready for the world they’d be joining. When my nieces attended a Catholic high school in Ohio, they were given laptops to use with their school work.

Truth be told, even then I had misgivings about the amount of screen time my kids had. A recent conversation with neighbors, whose children grew up with mine, confirmed that I wasn’t alone. The other mothers—an artist, a human resources manager, and a psychologist—have all seen the downsides of too much screen time.

The artist was the first to mention the impact on creativity, but all of us  expressed similar concern. When consumed by screen use, children don’t have the opportunity to daydream aimlessly or use their imagination to invent games. The other mothers and I remembered that as kids, we made up goofy games that required imagination but little equipment—building a fort out of sofa cushions or raking leaves into piles that framed “rooms” in the yard.

Another effect we’ve all seen is underdeveloped social skills. While plenty of young adults are socially adept, some of the young adults we know are awkward in face-to-face conversations. They struggle when talking with people—in job interviews and when dealing with older coworkers. For some, in-person discussions are mistaken for disagreement and conflict, instead of the normal give and take of conversation. Texting and IM’ing are more comfortable. It’s easier for them to express their opinions with the distancing filter of a screen.

None of us were suggesting that children shouldn’t use computers or cell phones. Personally, I love my phone, tablet, and laptop and recognize that using technology is a vital part of modern life. However, being selective about when, where, and how much children use technology is important. Although our kids hated it, the other mothers and I limited the amount of time our kids spent using screens.

Limiting screens is an even greater challenge for today’s parents and teachers. Teachers struggle with the disruption of cell phones in the classroom. Parents now have to contend with the potential dangers of social media and the content of their children’s Internet searches. I feel fortunate my kids were older by the time social media was widespread. That was one problem I didn’t have to face.

A younger mother I know locks up her teenagers’ phones and computers at bedtime so they aren’t online or texting into the wee hours—they need their sleep, and she needs some peace of mind. If her kids’ grades slip, they lose phone privileges.

It’s disconcerting to realize that the very screens that we sought for our kids years ago could both expand their horizons and limit their potential. But just as we did, I am confident today’s parents will figure out a way to handle the challenges of technology.

6 thoughts on “Kids and Keyboards–A Dilemma

  1. Funny,,,when I saw “keyboards” in the title, I thought you meant the musical kind. People are not on the phone (or anything else) much when playing instruments. 🙂 Children model adult behaviors. Technology is an issue from many angles. The danger ratchets up even higher when people of any age use devices while driving. Is there an app for common sense? Thanks for the thought-provoking words, Ellen, and allowing me a one-minute rant. I’ve seen too many near misses. We all need to be proactive.

  2. Too much screen time is definitely a concern. Even my physician wondered out loud what it is doing to our brains, and kids are particularly vulnerable. It upsets me to see families in restaurants all on phones, not communicating like you’d expect to see. I’ve noticed how many young people seem uncomfortable talking face-to-face and have trouble making eye contact. I worry this could have socially dangerous, irrevocable consequences down the road.

    • The recent interest in limiting screens was new to me, but when I did a bit more digging I discovered that the issues concerning screens have been getting a lot of attention in the last few years, and that makes me hopeful.

  3. Ack. I saw the article too and it’s ongoing, this strughle…my kids are tween and teen and we have limits and restrictions but it’s still challenging. Sigh.

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